How Should I Prepare For Divorce In New York?

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No one falls in love and gets married, thinking about how their relationship will end. But when divorce becomes a reality, we think mainly about the emotional impact. Some experts believe that, at least in the early stages, thoughts about divorce are 95% emotional and only 5% about the legal aspects.

That shouldn’t be shocking, especially for couples with children or those who have been together for a long time. But while those strong feelings are unavoidable, it’s best to quickly put them aside and focus on preparing for the legal process to protect your future well-being.

The Three Main Legal Issues Of Divorce

The reasons for the breakup and areas of disagreement are different for every couple. However, there are three primary legal considerations when preparing for divorce:

  1. How will you divide your assets and debts?
  2. Where will your children live, and how will visitation work?
  3. How will future income be shared for child support and spousal maintenance?

Resolving these issues requires you to collect considerable information for yourself and your spouse and share it with your lawyer. Let’s address each of these areas.

Dividing Marital Assets And Debts

New York is an equitable distribution state, meaning marital assets and debts are distributed “equitably.” But that doesn’t necessarily translate to an “equal” split. Instead, each spouse receives a “fair” share based on what each contributed as well as the length of the marriage. While you can’t guarantee the outcome, you can get organized and achieve better results by taking an inventory of all marital property, such as:

  • Bank accounts, balance sheets and personal financial statements
  • Real estate deeds
  • Stocks and other investments
  • Pensions, 401(k)s and IRAs
  • Wills and trusts
  • Insurance policies
  • Business ownership documents
  • Professional licenses and degrees
  • Credit card statements
  • Mortgage information and other loan documents
  • Comprehensive list of other marital assets and debts

Your list may include jewelry, vehicles, artwork and other items for which you’re unsure how much they’re worth. Experienced attorneys use appraisers and other experts to ensure they are accurately valued. Creating this list as soon as possible is preferable as some spouses may deny assets exist or try to hide or transfer them. However, New York penalizes those who try to hide marital property.

Child Custody And Visitation

Custody matters are divided into two parts. Physical custody, also called residential custody, is where the child will primarily reside. Legal custody involves who will make important decisions for the child’s welfare such as medical and education decisions. In most cases, parents continue to make these decisions together, known as joint custody.

New York courts put a child’s needs first when determining these issues, and judges typically make it their priority for children to maintain a close and loving relationship with both parents. While some believe the mother always has the advantage in custody disputes, New York does not favor either parent when awarding custody.

While the child will primarily live with the custodial parent, noncustodial parents have visitation rights, varying from case to case. Parents can come up with a schedule of their own or a judge will decide when they disagree. The court must sign off on any visitation plan. It’s also essential to note that never-married couples have the same visitation rights as divorced or separated parents.

Child Support And Alimony

If you are the higher-earning and noncustodial parent, you can expect to pay child support until your child turns 21, unless they become emancipated earlier. New York determines the amount using a formula contained in the Child Support Standards Act. When the noncustodial parent earns over $136,000 a year, a judge has the discretion to set the amount.

Alimony, or spousal maintenance, is a separate matter from child support. It’s intended to allow both spouses to have a similar lifestyle as when they were married. There is no standard formula, but judges weigh several factors in determining the amount and how long payments will last. Courts can also order temporary spousal support before finalizing a divorce decree.

Compassionate Advocacy And Sound Legal Advice

While it’s critical to focus on the legal aspects of your divorce, it is also extremely important to have compassionate representation during this challenging time in your life. Divorce is emotionally difficult and financially complicated, especially for high-asset spouses.

Our firm has been dedicated to protecting clients’ interests for nearly two decades. We make it our priority to achieve a fair outcome by peacefully negotiating asset division, child custody and sharing income. But we also have the experience to go to court and skillfully argue on your behalf when necessary.


The answer is intended to be for informational purposes only. It should not be relied on as legal advice, nor construed as a form of attorney-client relationship.

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