Who Gets the Pet in a Breakup?
How to solve or avoid a pet-custody dispute in the Battle Born State
on November 4, 2021
Updated on August 4, 2022
If you have a child, and you’re going through a breakup or divorce, putting a child-custody plan in place is going to be part of the process.
More and more, splitting couples are also having to decide who gets the pet. While the safest option is for the partners to decide who gets the pet in the event of a breakup or divorce at the time of adoption or purchase, Jennifer Braster, a business litigator at law firm Naylor & Brastor in Las Vegas, says, “Most people don’t think that way. And I understand that.”
If you’re getting divorced, the process—in theory—is relatively simple, and can be handled by a family law attorney. “In Nevada, animals are considered property. Much like your couch or your car, that property will be divided up,” says Braster. “I have seen, in several divorces … the parties have a custody schedule: The ex-wife gets the dog ‘x’ days, and the ex-husband gets the dog ‘x’ days, and then they provide for the division of veterinary costs and food.”
If you’re not married, the situation gets trickier. If you absolutely can’t resolve the issue, a civil litigator can most likely handle your case. There are, however, a couple of solutions you can try before resorting to litigation.
Braster says it can be as simple as allowing the partner who paid for the animal (or the veterinary bills, or the food) to keep them. Another potential work-around? “You could say, ‘I want to keep the dog. You said you spent $500 on the adoption fee and food. I will reimburse you the $500 and I get to keep the dog.’ Then, you could put that on a piece of paper and say, “I hereby give you $500. You have no more rights or interest in Spot.’”
If one partner is keeping the pet, documentation of that fact is key. Braster recalls one incident wherein she represented the boyfriend, who had given his girlfriend money to buy a dog—meaning, technically, she made the purchase.
“Of course, the handing-over of the cash wasn’t documented,” Braster says. “He probably paid for 70% of the expenses, but it wasn’t proven, because she physically purchased the animal and was on the ownership with the breeder for these two dogs. Ultimately, that was enough for the judge to decide she should retain ownership.”
“We’ve all been in situations where everything is nice and rosy and amicable—until it’s not,” she adds. “You want to have something that shows your point, and it does not have to be a fancy contract. It can be a simple email back-and-forth.”
A second solution is for the two parties to make a custody agreement themselves. Again, Braster recommends getting the agreement in writing. “Just write a little contract or agreement, it can even be on a piece of handwritten-paper, saying, ‘Girlfriend gets the dog every other week starting on July 1,’ or ‘Boyfriend gets the dog every other week,’” she says.
So, while most couples may not be thinking about the relationship’s end when they bring a pet into the picture, deciding what happens in the event of a split—and getting it in writing—can save time, money and arguing down the road.
And one last word of advice? “If one party has the dog, and the other party thinks it’s his or her dog and calls the police, it’s highly unlikely the police will do anything, as it’s a civil matter,” Braster says.
For more information on pet ownership, joint custody (shared custody), shared pets, prenuptial agreements (prenups), divorce cases, co-parenting, and the attorney-client relationship, see our overviews of animal law, family law and custody and visitation law.