Getting a Divorce in South Florida
Keeping your fate in your own hands and not the court's
By Janet Leiser | Reviewed by Canaan Suitt, J.D. | Last updated on December 4, 2023 Featuring practical insights from contributing attorneys Juliette E. Lippman, Jeffrey A. Weissman and Robert F. Kohlman-MoralesUse these links to jump to different sections:
- Prepare for the Emotional Divorce Process
- Five Steps to Preparing for a Divorce
- Understand How Courts Will Determine Child Custody
- Thinking Ahead of Dissolution of Marriage
- Permanent Alimony Is No More in Florida
- Mediation Is Required in Florida Divorces
- Find an Experienced Divorce Lawyer
For many South Florida divorce attorneys, the first face-to-face talk with a client is about establishing realistic expectations. “Some people come in really hoping the legal system will change their spouse or right an injustice they’ve experienced,” says West Palm Beach family law attorney Odette Marie Bendeck.
“The emotional overload a party may be experiencing as a divorce begins and progresses can make it painful to hear the ‘reality check.’”
Jeffrey A. Weissman, a family law attorney with Boca Raton’s Gladstone & Weissman, agrees: “You have to give an accurate assessment, not just what they want to hear.”
Prepare for the Emotional Divorce Process
It’s important, Bendeck adds, to find a divorce lawyer who is not only capable but with whom you have an attorney-client relationship that fits and feels comfortable. “Hiring a smart lawyer is always wise, but if you have no rapport with the lawyer, the process will be far more damaging and upsetting than it needs to be,” Bendeck says.
Attorneys say it’s also important for clients to be prepared for the emotional impact of divorce—a stress some therapists say is second only to the death of a child. “You have to be cognizant and attentive to the emotions you’ll be going through and how it might impact you,” says Weissman, who recommends therapy for his clients. “Therapy is not a sign of weakness but rather a sign of strength and self-improvement.”
Five Steps to Preparing for a Divorce
Attorneys share these five additional tips for preparing to enter the divorce process:
- Open individual checking accounts;
- Identify assets and liabilities;
- Collect tax returns;
- Decide on reasonable and achievable objectives; and
- Find a lawyer who is capable, trustworthy, and easy to communicate with.
Understand How Courts Will Determine Child Custody
In Florida, judges tend to award shared custody of minor children in divorces as long as it’s in the child’s best interests, says Juliette E. Lippman of the law firm Birnbaum, Lippman & Gregoire in Fort Lauderdale.
Thinking Ahead of Dissolution of Marriage
The best way to make things easier? Sign a prenuptial agreement before you get married, advises Miami family law attorney Robert F. Kohlman-Morales of KohlmanLaw. Otherwise, disagreements are likely on all terms of the divorce, from marital property division to alimony.
Miami is considered a favorable legal environment for those from nearby South and Central America seeking alimony to divorce because of Florida’s laws on both spousal support and equitable distribution of property. After staying more than six months in the state of Florida, someone visiting or owning a second home can try to establish a venue in local courts, Kohlman-Morales says.
Under Florida divorce law, there’s a presumption that marital assets will be divided equally between the spouses, with some exceptions, including inheritances that have been kept separate.
Permanent Alimony Is No More in Florida
After years of failed attempts, changes in alimony have come to Florida. The 2015 Legislature considered a bill, vetoed by Governor Rick Scott in April 2016, that would have ended lifetime alimony, allowing it to stop upon the retirement of the paying spouse or at a set time. In 2022, Governor Ron DeSantis vetoed a similar bill. However, in July 2023, DeSantis signed Florida SB 1416, ending permanent alimony.
“Alimony. Alimony. Alimony. That’s going to be the mantra,” says Kohlman-Morales. Under the new changes, “everything we knew before won’t apply.”
Mediation Is Required in Florida Divorces
In Florida law, mediation is required, and Lippman estimates that 85 to 90 percent of the divorces her firm handles are settled out of court. “You can’t make people settle, but it’s in almost everyone’s best interests if they do settle,” says Lippman. “If the attorneys are fighting, the parties are fighting, it can become very costly.”
Weissman agrees: “To let your fate be decided by a stranger in a black robe is a foolish thing to do.”
Find an Experienced Divorce Lawyer
Visit the Super Lawyers directory to find an experienced divorce lawyer in your area for legal advice. For more information on this area, see our overviews of family law, divorce, and mediation and collaborative law.
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