Suing for Sexual Abuse in Missouri
By Benjy Schirm, J.D. | Reviewed by Canaan Suitt, J.D. | Last updated on June 24, 2025 Featuring practical insights from contributing attorney David M. Mayer“I think it started back in the ’80s with the Catholic church abuse scandal,” says David Mayer, a personal injury attorney at Monsees & Mayer in Kansas City, Missouri. “People started to realize that sexual abuse is a problem, and agreed we need to fix this. When I was growing up in the ’60s, if I or one of my friends said that a priest molested them, no one would have believed them.”
Mayer has handled several civil cases against sexual abusers, and he’s thankful that the rise in visibility of such atrocities over the past few decades has led to increasing instances of successful litigation. Missouri laws provide civil remedies for sexually abused children with diminished capacities. These laws state that a victim can recover damages if they can prove rape, sodomy, incest, or sexual abuse, and they define injuries as either physical or mental.
What To Do If You’re a Victim of Abuse
The first step is to seek medical and mental health services, and report the wrongdoing. A victim should also contact a reputable and experienced lawyer at a law firm to explore their legal remedies.
“After giving advice on taking care of themselves and contacting the proper authorities, we look at all remedies from a civil litigation standpoint,” Mayer says. “I represent minors or people who are incapacitated with a mental or physical disorder as an adult. It’s frustrating in these cases, because someone who is vulnerable due to age or condition is victimized and someone in a position of power violates that trust.”
Statute of Limitations in Sexual Abuse Cases
When a minor or one with diminished capacity is abused, it can take years to come to grips with the realities of what happened. Yet, the statute of limitations is, generally, five years from the realization of abuse. This means that if a victim waits too long, they may not be able to pursue a remedy.
There are exceptions to the timeline, Mayer says. For example, under Missouri law:
- There is a repressed memory exception and the timeline can be five years from that date
- The clock doesn’t begin for minors until they turn 21
- There is a 10-year statute for minors in claims against an abuser (not an employer)
“I can’t tell you how many victims come to me, especially as a minor, and their parents are so embarrassed about it and they say, ‘Are you sure that really happened? I don’t think our pastor would do that. Go apologize for saying that. It didn’t really happen,’” Mayer says.
The unfortunate truth is that reliving these experiences can be quite traumatic. “The defendants will question everything in one of these cases,” Mayer adds. “How many times have you had sex? Where did you do it? Have you ever taken nude photos? It gets really personal. I always have to counsel clients on what one of these cases entails because actually walking through what they will have to go through is a real barrier for most people.”
After giving advice on taking care of themselves and contacting the proper authorities, we look at all remedies from a civil litigation standpoint.
Proving Your Case
Finding evidence to substantiate an abuse claim can be difficult, and these cases often come down to an incapacitated person’s word against an authority figure’s. “The biggest problems that we face are that these cases are generally a he said, she said problem where there are no other people witnessing the abuse,” Mayer says.
If someone is convicted criminally, it can make a civil case easier, but difficulties remain. If it was an intentional act, which most molestations are, insurance doesn’t cover it. There are some cases that have negligence involved, allowing liability to be attached to an employer or organization putting someone in a situation or giving them resources to victimize people. And insurance is evolving in this arena, Mayer says.
“Insurance companies are now writing in more exclusions on these intentional acts. So, one of the things that I’m seeing change as more of these cases come forward are the insurance companies trying to exclude coverage for even negligent sexual abuse claims, unless they get a specific endorsement,” he says.
Settling Cases Confidentially
Most of these cases are settled confidentially, which means the victim receives some manner of payment. “One of the most frustrating things,” Mayer adds, “are when organizations can continue to hide the abuse after we’ve litigated the case. No institution or employer wants the public to know they’ve paid out on a sexual abuse claim.”
Still, Mayer says, it can be very rewarding to bring a victim a good result. “Many people come in saying, ‘No one believes me.’ They are often ostracized from their community, and it’s just sad when we look into it and find that the abuse is real and it’s happened before. We help them out and they often feel good about it, but the check doesn’t resolve those scars. Those scars are going to be with them the rest of their lives.”
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