Divorcing in the Military

Ohio attorney Dalma Grandjean discusses ending a marriage when one partner is a service member

By Beth Taylor | Reviewed by Canaan Suitt, J.D. | Last updated on May 2, 2023 Featuring practical insights from contributing attorney Dalma C. Grandjean

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Getting a divorce is never an easy process for a couple to go through, but for military couples, an entirely new layer of complexity is added to the divorce case.

For one thing, the physical location of an active duty military member can sometimes pose a challenge. “There may be complications in getting service on the service member if he or she is overseas, aboard a naval vessel or deployed to an unknown location,” says Dalma C. Grandjean, a family law attorney who practices at Buckley King in Dayton, Ohio.

Even if the whereabouts of both parties are known, the service member may well be stationed in a different location from the other spouse during a divorce process.

“Sometimes the wife files in one state and the husband files in another,” Grandjean says. “The two states then have to decide which has jurisdictional priority.”

Child Custody Matters

And when minor children are involved, decisions involving child custody arrangements and child support can become a tricky matter.

“While courts are not supposed to view military service as a detriment to custody,” Grandjean says, “the reality is that the parent who is home with the children has an advantage over the one who is periodically deployed.”

Attorneys who take on military divorce need to be well-versed in matters which are unique to service members and which commonly occur in military divorces.

Dalma C. Grandjean

Property and Military Benefits

Property division can also be a very different process from how things typically work in a civilian divorce. The Uniformed Services Former Spouses Protection Act grants divorce courts the right to award the non-military spouse a share of the service member’s military pension.

“Since service members can retire after 20 years, sometimes less, they can be as young as 40 when they retire,” Grandjean notes of the USFSPA.

“A former spouse’s receipt of the marital share of the pension can create a substantial income stream during the lifetime of the retired service member. If the court also orders the service member to designate the former spouse as his survivor beneficiary, then the former spouse can continue to receive a share of the pension for his or her lifetime.”

The Right Divorce Lawyer

In any divorce proceeding, it’s important to get legal advice from an experienced family law attorney. Even in the simplest dissolution, in which there is no co-owned property and no minor children, it’s a good idea to have an attorney review any proposed do-it-yourself divorce agreement.

But if at least one partner is in the armed forces, it’s best for both parties to hire a lawyer with solid experience at handling military divorces.

A lawyer who represents either spouse in a military divorce needs to be familiar with a wide array of military-related policies and law, such as veterans’ and military disability  benefits, combat-related special compensation, concurrent retirement and disability pay, the Serviceman’s Civil Relief Act, policies on support of dependents, etc.

“Attorneys who take on military divorce,” Grandjean advises, “need to be well-versed in matters which are unique to service members and which commonly occur in military divorces.”

For more information, see our overview on divorce law.

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